I got attached to a little boy from vbs! helpp?

I know how hard it is to let go of a child that has found his or her way so far into your heart. I am 33 years old and now have a 3 y/o daughter of my own but I still remember some of my first children I babysat for. There is one little girl (now she's in her 20s) that I still check up on every once in a while - though she would never remember me, she had a huge impact on me and I'm sure I did on her as well. It hurts when you have to say goodbye but that's something you will have to get used to in any type of child care. It sounds like you were there to fill a need he was really lacking and you should feel good about that. Perhaps since you clicked so well with this little boy you could approach his mother (or father) and offer your babysitting services. If they are members of your church it shouldn't be too difficult to get in contact with them and I'm sure the little guy talks about you a lot at home so they are sure to be familiar with your name. You are right that at the age of 3 he won't remember you, however you have most likely made an impact on his life in some small way. Even at the tender age of 3, a very positive experience and connection with any caregiver can be life-altering. It sounds like you don't know much about this little guy's home life but it seems he wasn't getting the attention he needs from his family at this point in his life. You filled those needs for the time he spent with you and you can feel good about that. If that's the case, you probably even helped him in ways (psychologically) that you wouldn't even imagine. Sometimes toddlers are lacking in trust or confidence in caregivers and a consistent loving young person, such as yourself can be just what they need to encourage progress in their social skills. I know it's hard to think about toddlers as regular little people with all the same feelings and needs we have but they are... in fact their feelings and needs are so much more intense and they can't even find way to express or even know themselves, what they need. It sounds like you were very intuitive to his needs and that's fantastic! I'm sure you have a great future in child care-giving; and if not, you should at least do some baby sitting or volunteer work with children to help fill those early-blossoming maternal instincts. Just think of all the great impacts you can have on other children as you mature into a young woman - and someday, when you are ready and settled you will be a fantastic mother to your own children.